Men and women have occasionally accused me of being superficial… of practicing a field of medicine where saving lives and replacing vital organs is just not part of my daily routine.
Patients have said, “I can’t possibly tell my husband I do BOTOX [or whatever treatment applies]. He’d think that this is silly and wasteful.”
Friends (OK, acquaintances) have even asked, “You can’t possibly believe beauty and physical appearance are that important!”
To these slings and arrows I answer, 1. “I have little or no doubt that your husband’s eyes wander towards an extremely attractive woman in a room. Why shouldn’t that woman be you?” and 2. “I absolutely, positively believe that physical beauty is extremely important, dedicate my life to preserving and enhancing it, and view that opinion as enlightened and (more importantly) HONEST.”
To that end, I recently searched for… and obviously found… a wonderful article from Dec 19th, 2007, printed in The Economist. What follows is a brief quote:
“IMAGINE you have two candidates for a job. They are both of the … sex [that] is the one your own proclivities incline you to find attractive. Their CVs are equally good, and they both give good interview. You cannot help noticing, though, that one is pug-ugly and the other is handsome [lovely]. Are you swayed by their appearance?
Perhaps not. But lesser, less-moral mortals might be. If appearance did not count, why would people dress up for such interviews—even if the job they are hoping to get is dressed down? And job interviews are turning points in life. If beauty sways interviewers, the beautiful will, by and large, have more successful careers than the ugly—even in careers for which beauty is not a necessary qualification.…”
My mother frequently said (too often, in fact), “It NEVER hurts to put your best foot forward” (or, better stated for my purposes, best face forward) in interviews and in life.
We would all like to believe that the world judges us by our character, accomplishments and tenacity, but we all know that belief to be somewhat hollow. We do, in fact and almost to a man, secretly judge others that way ourselves.
Oh, come on… drop the sanctimony for just a tiny moment, look deep inside the recesses of your “social self”… and question whether you do or don’t gravitate towards… aren’t attracted to… the attractive people at a social gathering.
Of course you are. We all are. That’s precisely why they are called “attractive”… because they do, indeed, attract.
Beauty may only be skin deep, as the saying goes, but it seems to penetrate to every level of our social and professional lives.
I can practically assure you that everyone else is watching your skin, your weight and your manners… so you should, too.